Today we spoke to Vanden Heuvel & Dineen, S.C. Attorneys, who hail from Appleton, Wisconsin. We spoke about many topics having to do with divorce, and it’s not a topic that many people want to broach, but they are a very reputable firm that has years of experience dealing with this exact field of law.
Here are some generic tips for men who are going through divorce that we thought were relevant to this update.
There are four major things you should know about when you approach a divorce.
Often times there is a lot of fear from both sides as this life changing situation unfolds. Fears that a mistake will occur, fear of how to deal with the situation, and fear for the well being of the children involved. Sometimes the fear is about what their future relationships hold and how they will pan out financially.
Here are four things to keep in mind as you head into what will be a very difficult time in your life:
No matter which side of the divorce you are on, you’ll have a change in how your financial wellness takes shape. The fact remains, you have to look forward and get acclimated to your new situation. It’s a fact, and the sooner you move on, the better.
When you accept this, and quit crying over the situation, the better you’ll do in your mental recovery. New horizons are out there, and new opportunities await. Get organized, and be prepared. Sometimes being frugal is smart too.
Fear of what the children will go through emotionally is what takes most people by storm. This reason keeps a lot of marriages intact and keeps people in unhappy situations. When they do this, (stick together for the kids) it simply adds to continued anger and anxiety and the truth is, the kids may be better off if you split up. If you aren’t happy, that can trickle down to the children. The best thing you can do is be extra nice to the children and spend more time with them. It’s also a good idea not to speak bad about your ex.
You have to let out your emotions. Don’t take that as sitting around crying all day, instead just talk to people. Get out of the denial phase, and quit being angry about it. Talk to people you trust and let your opinions be known, in a positive way.
You’ll be drained with this situation going on and at the forefront of your lives. Make sure you are social and communicate with others. It’s something that will only help you cope with the situation.